i also think that prom has a huge affect on peoples social life and self esteem. for example if some people cant afford to go to prom, then they are going to feel down and feel like they are too poor for their friends. and while they are stuck at home watching tv, their friends are going to be out all night living it up and enjoying themselves because they have money. therefore, their self esteem decreases because they are going to feel like they dont fit in or not good enough. it also effects peoples social life in a positive and negative way. positive because they get to socialize and talk to a lot of people, smile and laugh. and negative because there will be some neglecting where peole wont talk to people outside their clique and will act like they are not there like they normally do.
Monday, May 23, 2011
homework 57
when i first think about prom, i automatically think about dresses and tuxedos. everybody has to get dressed up and all fancy to go to prom. if you dont, people automatically would make fun of you for not going all out. but what really is going all out? i think it has to do with spending hundreds of dollars on one night to outshine other people. in other words, people go and think that since they are spending so much money, that they are going to look better than some other people. its a day to flaunt to others about their appearance.
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
extra credit #3
so i went to two cemeteries. the first one was a Jewish cemetery. it was located on Ramapo, which is up in Rockland County. when i first go there, i was actually kind of nervous. i felt a weird presence around me when i first got there. it was so weird knowing that there were thousands of dead bodies just six feet below me.the second cemetery a regular christian cemetery. when i went it was still creepy. i looked around and i walked a little bit. i have was looking at someof the head stones and a bunch of them were really old. i saw a few from the 1800's. i saw a caretaker there when i went and he was cleaning up some of the areas.
homework 56
bryanna:
i thought you had a good project going. i like towards the end about you and your mother. when you said that even though you and your mother have different view on religion, that it couldve been different for the way you guys care. but its not and i think that is very common with everybody. it doesnt matter what religion someone believes in (if they even do)it still comes down to one thing. they still believe in the person is in a good place and that no matter where they are, they are happy and accepted
good job.
ariel:
hey ariel i enjoyed reading your project. it was funny and at the same time very unique. it had the key ideas of what we learned in class along with a little more depth of what we learned. maybe next time you could focus a little more deeper on the stuff we didnt learn inside class
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bryanna:
Hey Jessica,
I think that it brave of you to your friend about her grandmother. And I think it is sad they had to be there when she died. I think that is sad that her kids will not get to know their grandmother. But I think you should talked tou her about the things we learned about in class
I think that it brave of you to your friend about her grandmother. And I think it is sad they had to be there when she died. I think that is sad that her kids will not get to know their grandmother. But I think you should talked tou her about the things we learned about in class
homework 55
for the project, interviewed my friend, who's grandmother that has just passed away. it was very difficult to really talk about it on behalf that the death was so sudden. he grandmother had a stroke in the morning and fell out of bed hitting her head. they found her laying there and they don't know how long she was on the floor. her and her cousin then picked her up and tried to wake her up but she wouldn't wake up. they then rushed her to the hospital where she was later put on a resperator for a couple hours. they took her off so see if she could breath on her own and soon later die that same day. they planned the funeral for two days after and it was going to last two days. the first day was the viewing of the body and the second day was going to be the funeral.
she said the most hardest part for her was the fact that she has a 20 month old son and then another one on the way and they wont be able to grow up with their great grandmother. she use to live with her too so now she is struggling to find somewhere else to stay.
at the viewing most of her family members were there. since it was short notice not everybody could make it. she said that it was very helpful that a lot of her friends came to the viewing to pay their respects. i asked her what made her and her family choose the burial for their grandma. she said that she didn't really have much say in what was going because she was kind of young. but a lot of the family said the usual "its what she would have wanted."
during the service the next day, they quoted a lot from the bible. her grandmother was very religious. she had multiple pictures of God and Jesus around the house with a bunch of crosses hanging up. i kept hearing the family saying "it was such short notice" .."i cant believe she is gone forever" ..or "it was God's plan"
in conclusion, even though her grandma is gone now, she thinks that she is at a better place and that yes God did accept her and will be looking over her and her son, and soon to be born baby girl. she said that her grandma will be deeply and truly missed. there will be no other grandma in her life.
Monday, May 16, 2011
extra credit #1
in the movie Harold and Mude, Harold experiences several death experience in his lifetime. in the beginning of the movie, you see Harold trying to look like he has hung himself. the lady in the same room, gives him a weird look and asks him if he thinks that is funny. it seems as if the lady doesn't really care about what he is doing. she walks away as if she saw nothing. then again, he pretends that he got seriously cut and stabbed. the lady again starts yelling say that she has had enough.
you see harold talking to a therapist multiple times during the movie about him always acting out as if he is dying. once he stated that he did it 15times. the therapist seemed shocked. there were also a couple funerals that go on in the movie. and at all of them Harold looks as if he is dumbfounded. he looks like he doesnt want to be there and that he is in his own world. he always looks around and has a worried yet shocked face on when he look towards the casket. to me this makes me think that funerals and death to Harold do not matter to him. he goes on with life not caring about who dies and that dying is a big joke.
but then later on in the movie, he starts to hang out with Maude. she tries to give him more of a spin on life. they go out and do a bunch of different stuff to "live life" the more time he spends with her, the more he started to care and love for her more.
at the end of the movie, Maude dies on her birthday. Harold had no idea that she was even sick. he was so heartbroken when he found out. he stayed in the hospital until her got news on her. when he finally did, the doctors told him that she had died. the changed Harold perspective on death forever. since he finally had someone who understood him and that he really was attached, having them die actually ment something to him. at the end, he drove to the top of a couple of valley's and started playing the bango. he was playing the song that Maude played on the piano and was walking.
extra credit #2
"What care the Dead, for Chanticleer" by Emily Dickinson http://www.americanpoems.com/poets/emilydickinson/10544
in this poem, she states the different seasons in the poem. to me shes trying to ask what is th meaning of caring for them then they have nothing. they cant do anything
Hearts of Gold -Sherry York
Why Do I do This? -Ashley Lipscomb
An Old Lady's Poem -no author
Dedicated To The Man I Never Knew -Pauline Hamblin
all these poems were by different nurses from across the country. a lot of the messages were that even though they dont perosnally know of their lives other then they were sick. they have connections towards them and grieve in their own ways/
I Shall Not Care -Sara Teasdale
i thought that this poem was trying to get at what the world and people would be like when she is dead.
Caring For a Dead Fish -Pete Crowther
even thought that this poem wasnt about caring for the dead person, it was about caring for a dead fish. in the poem, he talks about who should care for one? a lot of people care for the death of their pet along with a person especially if they see the animal as part of the family.
Mankind Dead Needs Nothing/Sharing is Caring -no author
this poem talked about feeling like they are dead before even dying. it talks about respect and treating people the way you want to be treated.
I Want To Say. - By Anonymous
I'm Ready To Give Up -by anonymous
why - By RichardD Bestenbostel
Life Isn't Fair -By Shayleigh Bray
a lot of these poems talk about the personal emotion they feel when they loose someone close to them and how they act or deal with it.
I HOLD YOU -Elsa Schieder
in this poem, i liked how it seemed like she was talking towards the person that died. she was telling them that she will always carry them in her heart, and soul. they will always be with her
God's Garden -author unknown
Heavenly Father -author unknown
Unable are the Loved to die -Emily Dickinson
in these last view poems, they are very short and sweet, especially the on by Emily Dickinson. it was about four lines but it went right to the point about how i would feel when someone dies.
looking up all of these poems, i noticed that there are a lot of different ways people view death. some are very sad, and a lot of these poems connect back to emotions and sadness and how they cry and dont want to let go of the person. but at the same time, some people get over it quickly and think that it was nothing serious. also that people dont just grieve over people. they also about animals.
like i said earlier, depending how close people are to their family pet, that right there could be a huge deal to the person. because that pet symbolized a person, or was taking up the space in the persons heart for someone else. for example if a lady's husband dies, she went out and bought a dog for her and the kids. 13years later, the dog dies and now its hard on them again.
homework 54
so i intervied my friend about her family views on death. she is a catholic. her family is very religious and goes to church every sunday. in their household, they have crosses up and even in their car to symbolize that jesus is always with them to protect them. her grandmother is the eldest in the household and she is the main one everybody gets their beliefs from. in her bedroom, she has a little shrine area full of candles and pictures to pray to before and after she wakes up everyday.
her grandma doesnt play when it come to religion and death. my friend told me that when someone dies in their family that after the funeral when they come home, they have to cover up all the mirrors for 3-5 days because in their culture they believe that when you come home, you bring the spirit with you and that is bad luck. this family is also houndourean and thats what they grew up with from Houndours. after that they then take off the blankets and sheets from the mirrors and continue to live their life.
another thing with their family i thought that was very interesting was dreams. her grandma believes that when a certain dream occurs, then that means something bad is going to happen to a person or if they have a dream about the person being a ghost or something then that means they have died. the family has a good sense when it comes to dreams what is going to happen to a person. also my friends family thinks that people die in pairs of three. so that three people you know will die around the same time, not too far apart.
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